Compliant or Cooperative – Which is better?

Scales Aren’t Just a Fish Thing™

A concept connecting how we learn

and our how our brains process information

with the study of music,

developed for over thirty years

To touch lives with a calm and gentle spirit…

Scales Aren’t Just a Fish Thing is a  back door method of teaching just about anything

(I am using music and music theory as an example)

We can avoid short circuits and mental roadblocks by working with the unique wiring and learning styles of each individual.

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Here’s what I think.

All learning comes

based on previous growth,

The mind does not grow

like an onion with layers.

It grows by weaving unimaginably complex patterns

that correspond to the multiplicities of the world

and people who make up the world of the individual.

A quiet easy student or child isn’t always better.

Once the child reaches 13 years old, they choose one of two paths.

Compliant or

Cooperative ….maybe. (sometimes misunderstood as resistant)

One is easier but once they reach maturity they say….

“Who am I-  I’ve pleased everyone else but what would I have liked?’

Mom and Dad think they have done a great job and launch the compliant new adult into a world where life requires more than compliance if they don’t want to be eaten by the ‘sharks’.

Resistance and sorting out what they accept as their worldview,

while in the protection of the home,

is actually a bit of a good thing if done with respect for everyone.

Compliant Obedient ChildResponsible, Cooperative Child

1. Externally motivated.
Needs to please and win approval 
2.Is obedient – follows orders
3. Feels helplessness without support person
4. Self esteem is on the ‘reputation’ 5. Waits for orders, lacks initiative
6. “I am my actions”
7. Lets others make choices for them leading to consequences
8. Has difficulty projecting what the result of their behavior may be
9. External value system
10. Blindly obeys, possible he may think
11. Has no internal red flags
12. Self-defeating tendency to ignore personal needs, ‘walk-on-me’ mentality
13. Win-lose mentality
14. No personal achievement goals
15. Avoids punishment
16. Self exonerating behavior due to guilt over their desires

1. Internally motivated by choices and consequences
2. Makes decisions
3. Confident, empowered since choices have been confirmed
4. Self esteem is on the private self
5. Assertive
6. “I am responsible for my actions   
7. Makes own choices and takes responsibility for consequences
8. Confident to make choices, aware of possible results
9. Internal value system
10. Thinks, may possibly obey
11. Has an established internal siren to establish boundaries
12. Aware of personal needs has a healthy acceptance of needs
13. Win-Win mentality
14. Focused, centered, with a mission
15. Seeks results
16. Balance between internal and external needs and desires versus others requests.

Scales Aren’t Just a Fish Thing


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Teaching Tools including

color-coded notes

for all the Suzuki literature

through Book 4 plus lots

gypsy, fiddle and canons.

Play-along music

and music theory card games

to maintain interest.

Gum Drop Note Sheet Music

Circles are the color the note is moving toward.  Subtly the student is learning complex music theory without knowing it.  When they play the music theory games, it stamps the ideas and embeds them into their thinking.  Try them.

Remember:  a note that is sharp or flat is notated with a circle the color of the note it is moving toward.  Just a little help while we are learning.

The Brain and how we process information

Tools to teach

Violin Sheet Music – Paperbacks

Book One

Big Book of Gum Drop Notes

Tools to teach

Violin Sheet Music – Paperbacks

Pretwinkle books

   tutorial videos on computer and iPhone/iPad

and music theory games

digital books

Book One

Big Book of Gum Drop Notes

Violin  Book


Big Book of Gum Drop Notes

Violin  Book three

Big Book of Gum Drop Notes


Violin Great Extra


Big Book of Gum Drop Notes

The ’10 Minute Music Theory Card Games’ ™ is a year long series of card games intended to be played at the end of each lesson.  This slowly builds understanding from the simplest concept until it is intrinsically understood. Students want to come to lessons because they are motivated and excited about learning.  Their progress is solid and steady.  They understand intervals and otherwise difficult music theory concepts by playing games until they are at lightning speed.  All games include ‘clue cards‘ with all the answers ‘nurture don’t test’.

‘The Magnificent Fingerboard ™’  is the basis for reference.  Students become familiar with the notes and the patterns. Combined with listening to the music, the understanding of the notes and their relationship to the notes around them, is a great musical foundation.

Ten Minute Music Theory

Card Games Series

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